Fundamental of Relationship - No. 1
The answer to that fundamental lies within ourself. How is it that we most of the time feel we are right and go to any extent defending ourself. Why do we put up so well with ourself? The only reason is we come to terms with ourself better than anyone. This is the fundamental you should apply to all relationships. 'Come to Terms'.
Be it your boss or your spouse, when you accept them with the kind or type they're the journey is better. Most relationship issues happen when your expectations are not met. The divine says do not expect, but I say learn to accept.
Today, most of the Gurus want us to be self aware. What is self awareness? It means different in different situations. When you are in office, you need to know your strengths & weaknesses to give our best. When you are at social place give your best in terms of presentation. When you are home be yourself, yet be part of the family and expectations. We all play different roles in different zones.
But, you can easy out things when you start accepting instead of expecting. While saying this, I am not preaching to get complacent. No. Instead learn to find a solution by coming to terms. Accept the situation as it is and then look at the problem with your strengths & weaknesses. Acceptance only makes it easy for you work on the problem. Accepting do not mean ignoring or be happy with what you have or don't be revolutionary. Acceptance only means looking at things from all degrees before judging. When you want the other person to accept your view, you need to understand the other person view as well. Once you know both the view point you will be able to handle the situation better and live with that breaking down point as making up point.
If I can quote a example of boss & subordinate example; Bosses are always in a I AM ALWAYS RIGHT mode. Have you ever thought why, the answer is with experience the sense of wisdom comes. Boss might have experience the same situation while climbing his ladder and he can foresee things the way you do not. Try to see things from his point of view, by accepting that he has become boss not just by his luck but more importantly by work. In the reverse situation Boss needs to understand employee is new thought, few aspect he/she might not have then, which has come to surface now. Everyone before holding a negative thought need to be in other person shoe and look at situation and then be judgemental. But, this wisdom comes only when you respect the other person.
That respect you will have to gain yourself. If you want to be perceived right, let other person be perceived rightly by you. When you wish to be accepted for who you're, for what you know. When you are expecting any change in other person, look within if you will change that one thing which the other person do not like in you. Accept before Expecting.
Look for more fundamentals in coming days.
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