Asmani Jamdar Surve

Time is passing, and it will be judgemental to say if we are progressing or deteriorating. There are two sides to each coin and the concept of passing time too has that. What concerns me as an individual is, the quality of life and the definition of changing life values. Deep down I am a true Indian and India has been an idol for culture and life values, which somewhere on the scale is falling with time. We are paying the cost of development which is too high to realise at this time, which will be devasting when surfaced.   As Indian we take pride in our diversified culture, literature, rituals and Vedas. What are we doing to nurture and maintain it? This whole thought came to me when I was listening to some of the current top-listed Bollywood songs and to my disappointment each song had words which speak about "intoxication", "physical attraction", "addiction", "vulgar video", "cheating", "many love relationships" and some a

Relationships should be bonding not bidding. I recently came across a statement that said that a relationship is a constant effort of commitment, communication and compromise . Which is the reality if you fail to balance all the three the relationship becomes bidding. We all go through our own ups and downs in the journey of life and as the saying goes, enjoying the journey is more important than the destination . But how many of us actually enjoy it? Take a pause and restart enjoying it. During the counselling and coaching sessions, I come across the majority of concerns that are reloving around perception and lifestyle . We have made our lifestyle so materialistic that happiness or wow moments are connected to the accumulation rather than the feelings . The measurement has become more important. We need to encumber the burden of measurement. Eg. I am doing XYZ and I deserve ABC from the other person. Is this the commitment other personed signed with you or did you communicate your

We as humans have evolved from orangutans, chimpanzees, bonobos, and gorillas. What these species have shared is their ancestors, who were same seven million years before. When we have not evolved from the same species, how can we expect people to behave or think in the same way? Yet we often wish that other people should behave the way we want to or understand us without being expressive or reasonable. When you expect anything from the person, you are willing to conduct what you like, irrespective of whether the other likes it. Which means you want them to live those moments as per you and not as per them. This is the most significant disconnect we have in relationships.  The disconnect of expectations vs deliverables is not something that has come in existence in recent past. This connect was existing from the beginning, but it has started to be seen on the surface in recent times. The reason is non-acceptance and lack of patience. This era of fast food has made us expect everything

Quite often, spirituality term is aligned to be a synonym of religion or ritual. It is a need today that we understand spirituality is for our soul and not for any societal belief. Religion and tradition are the drawn rules & systems by the society or community to practice spirituality. Our ancestors knew well that metaphors work better than preachings. Hence, the following specific patterns became the way to embark on the journey of spirituality. Aspects like meditation, pranayama, yoga & sadhana are methods of attaining spirituality. Purpose of making these aspects as part of religion and rituals was to make sure these were conducted time and often.  Today, the adoption of the concept of intermittent fasting is common in even younger generations. Our ancestors followed the system of intermittent fasting at the time of conducting any religious rituals. Today we are very well aware that fasting or intermittent fasting helps us detox our bodies and eat up the cells that are not

Sarees are one of the most talked types of costume from years. People adorn the drape, yet they feel jittery when it comes to draping it. The reason for nervousness is apparent, and that is draping a 5-yard cloth. The length and breadth of the fabric gives a feeling of tension; what if it opens up in the running around? Oh, it is too much to carry around; the pleats, the pallu and limitations one feels while walking due to the little flare. Yet when you wear it, nothing beats the elegance, class, grace and beauty it enhances. India has a long-standing tradition and a tradition every Indian takes pride. The pride reflects primarily in people who have given their lives to keep this tradition alive. One of them is the loom owners and the artists who work on the intricate weaving and making the threads into a 5-yard saree. Some families are into handlooms making sarees from multiple generations, and they with each next generation are enhancing the product. Today wearing a saree is

We all are undergoing a dilemma of uncertainty. The cloud of questions keeps hovering over your thoughts. Be it of on-going scenario or future. Things are surely going to change, and things are not going to be in the same pattern as they have been for the last few decades. We have evolved, developed and become more sophisticated with time and education. But we are humans at heart and mind. We still can imagine which is not available with any other living species on earth. Do you have these questions; - How will be that day when the lockdown opens, and we will get back to the physical world again? - Will it be a day just like it was on 20 March 2020 or it will be different and if different, how different? - How am I going to live that day, and how will I be reacting and acting that day? - Will I have public transport services and if I will then will I be able to accommodate which we were doing all these years comfortably? - Will, I still offer a helping hand to a stranger by the road