Divorce or Adultery - Trend or Failure

Indian society has been through so many hues. The palate, in the beginning, had only greys which with time have seen the complete range of the rainbow. The diversity of the country brings a variety of cultures and beliefs, along with the democratic nature of the constitution. 

With globalisation and at par operations, the exposure to the outside world is unlimited. With this exposure, the filters are not applied due to flexibility and adaptability. A classic example of bad parenting as I may say. Parent teaching children to explore and not teaching them to grasp only what is right. Now here for a country who is the parent? It is our culture, heritage, beliefs and traditions. Unfortunately, all these are considered as orthodox thoughts now. And being orthodox is being out of fashion. 

Today, one of the burning issues of Indian society is divorce or adultery. Let's go to the first step of marriage. As per the decade-old survey, 95% of marriages in India were arranged against the new figures say 78% of marriages are arranged. These figures show a whooping increase of love marriages by 7%, which means 140% growth in love marriages. With these figures, it is evident that new generations are more willing to look for their partners by themselves instead of their families. 

When we are referring to identifying your partner, the compatibility is more about the couple with each other, as it is a girl or boy who first gets to know each other, and then they venture for families. Also, millennials are more independent in thoughts and primarily look for things from more of self aspect and secondary for family. But in Indian culture, it is not only about the couple; it is about the whole family. Every member is given a chance in different rituals to make them feel important and interact with the other family. In some cases these rituals help bond exceptionally well in some they go worst.

Whereas in arranging marriages, the compatibility is checked for multiple aspects like; families culture, families backgrounds, families financial status, couple compatibility etc. When I am referring to families here, it means not only girl and boy family but also their first extended family; uncles, aunts, grandparents and so on. Today, liberty is offered to couples also to check their compatibility along with family expectations. One can imagine so much of working goes behind arrange marriages, due to which the chances of failure are rare.

Marriage as a constitution is a beautiful journey if the couple accepts each other and their families with their pros & cons. Unfortunately, today couples do not have the patience and acceptance about the flaws of partners or their families, due to which friction in a relationship is undeniable. 

In specific couple, there is dissatisfaction about partner or dissatisfaction about how they are treated within families or society. Prominent couples fall apart are based on these two reasons in India. The above two reasons lead to a gap between couple and space for the third person to enter the married life. Some couples do not let the third person enter but feel relieved with breakage as that relationship has become a liability or a burden. Divorce will be traumatic for either of the individuals in the relationship; it is undoubtedly not a pleasureful process.

Every divorce may not be unreasonable, and in today's time, there is no need to live a life out of burden. But my question is, are these problems new, did they not prevail in earlier times? So was the old generation insecure about lives that they overlooked these problems and still survived their relationships. Or is today age so uncertain that they fail to trust each other and overlook flaws to make their relationship successful? 

Earlier, there were no opportunities or taboo of breaking relationship as it will call upon shame to families or people were mature and robust to handle matters within four walls of their house. So is it that today generation is not mature and strong enough to manage and accept their problems and manage it on their own and they seek external help by adultery or advocates.

India is still one of the lowest divorced couples countries with 1.1%. But I find this number also quite alarming for the current population. India is seen as rich in its culture and tradition, so what kind of example are we setting by disowning our own decision of arranged marriage or love marriage. So is divorced couple failure or improper influence? Is adultery a solution to look for another person to find satisfaction which is not found in the current relationship? Couple take charge of your relationship, accept flaws and express your expectations, be open to adapt or compromise no relationship is perfect you will have a difference with your parents also do you leave them? If a partner is not fulfilling; you also may be lacking somewhere for them. Humans are great creators to make your relationship a great one.