Fundamental of Relationship - No. 2

Fundamental No. 1 was about accepting as things comes to you, be it a personal relation or professional.

With time each day is bringing good and bad news. It is to you, if you pick bad ones to influence or good to influence. And what influences you depends on your present and past. What a person is depends on how they have lived, what kind of people they spend their life with and many unsaid factors. Before you pass a judgement think of all these factors.

In recent times there are so many suicides registered, be it a successful international brand owner or a student who was not able to crack board exams. All this need not be ignored neither to be taken too seriously. Human mind is a complex set of tangle, the more we try to fix it, more we get lost in it. What we need to do then? Just go with the flow?

All such tricky answers are very much with you. Probably taught to all of us in our school days, either through the medium of religion or stories or lessons. Learn to forgive. Be it forgiving yourself for your wrong doings or hurtful instances of others.

When you hold grudges for anyone, you are actually wasting your energy. The person you hold grudge for, you will always try to not talk about, or avoid or many such negative actions that bother your natural flow of thought. When you're going against the natural flow you will ultimately utilise more energy for no productive reason. Instead forgive the person and start fresh. That saves your energy and attracts positive energy in your life. 

Forgiving do not mean forgetting. If you forget the lesson you learnt then you are more vulnerable to expose yourself for another un-required incident. You need not blame the person who brought you that fate, neither yourself. Rather just remember what should not be done to repeat the mistake. This also refers to my opening para; a person is made by his/her past and present. So hold your horses of judgement. As every person learns from their actions and they behave, which might be unacceptable to you so first accept what comes to you and then forgive what you did not like.

Forgiving helps you progress in life better. You boost your patience, immunity, self control and brings positive attitude. Today, try to make a list of people you have been avoiding and just tell yourself to forgive them and move ahead. Moving on will get you better self, a peaceful person filled more with affection than negative feelings. 

Many of us when come back from a place are exhausted and many I have seen energetic. The reason lies within the time they have spent before coming back. If you have people in your surrounding who feel negative for you or you feel negative for them, you will have a more stressed and burdened feeling, hence when you return you are exhausted. But if you have spent time with people who give you positive vibe you will return with fresh mind, as you have not used your energy in ignoring or fighting the negativity. Hence, create a place for yourself where people like you and feel happy when you are around.

Learn to forgive, it helps to stay positive and attract positive people in life. Which leads to better relationships in any given aspect of life.

"TO ERR IS HUMAN; TO FORGIVE IS DIVINE"