Asmani Jamdar Surve

Indian society has been through so many hues. The palate, in the beginning, had only greys which with time have seen the complete range of the rainbow. The diversity of the country brings a variety of cultures and beliefs, along with the democratic nature of the constitution.  With globalisation and at par operations, the exposure to the outside world is unlimited. With this exposure, the filters are not applied due to flexibility and adaptability. A classic example of bad parenting as I may say. Parent teaching children to explore and not teaching them to grasp only what is right. Now here for a country who is the parent? It is our culture, heritage, beliefs and traditions. Unfortunately, all these are considered as orthodox thoughts now. And being orthodox is being out of fashion.  Today, one of the burning issues of Indian society is divorce or adultery. Let's go to the first step of marriage. As per the decade-old survey, 95% of marriages in India were arranged against t...

To win over your enemy, you need first to understand them. Why is anger your enemy? Ancient archives mention that anger is not suitable for health. When you are angry, your body releases a chemical which adversely affects your health; hence it is your enemy. Anger is a letter short to Danger... So what is anger? It is a reaction you give when you have an unpleasant experience. So it is a reaction that you give in any given situation. Who owns the response? It is the person who is reacting to the problem. Hence, the onus of the reaction is of the person who is giving it. Owner is responsible for his/her belongings. Which means react at owner risk.  The first step is to control the reaction. You are the owner of your reaction, so you are only the only one who can manage it. To manage your reaction you need to be in self-control. You have to understand that any situation or experience that is making you angry is it worth the effects you are doing to your body, what is more, cri...

Creative thinking comes when you are least expecting it. We keep seeking answers to our questions, but we don't get it often till you reach the edge as edge brings you near success. Not everyone is fortunate to an opportunity which makes them climb the ladder without much of efforts. So what is significant is you should keep thinking. The machine called the brain has to keep functioning in an optimal way to reach the edge.  Human psychologist says that creativity often is an overrated term as one gets most creative when they are insecure. Hold on before you start looking for insecurities. First, understand what does insecurity mean. They are mere fears that we develop, and understand it, the concern that we create and not situations or external factors. Fears are those thoughts that we dread of, and we repeated think them in isolation.  When these fears start getting more substantial, you start getting more and more insecure, and this leads to failure. Yes, I did say inse...

Seven is a very pious number with so many significant beliefs touching to each aspect of life forming complete circle of life. Be it time, spirituality, colours, music, ways of life, gratitude or attachment. There are so many cultural beliefs based on number 7: 7 days in week (Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday & Saturday) 7 horses to Sun (Surya Dev) cart (Gayatri, Brihati, Ushnih, Jagati, Trishtubha, Anushtubha and Pankti) 7 colours of rainbow (saat rang) (Violet, Indigo, Blue, Green, Yellow, Orange & Red) 7 significant activities of day for human (saat kriya) (Teeth Cleaning, Body Cleaning, Internal Cleaning, Meditation, Worship, Meals & Sleep) 7 notes of music (saat sargam) (Sa, Re, Ga, Ma, Pa, Dha & Ni) 7 gratitudes (saat abhivadan) (Mother, Father, Teacher, God, Sun, Fire & Guest) 7 promises of marriage (saat kasme) (Welfare, Strength, Acceptance, Nurture, Respect, Commitment & Eternity) With that I am going to talk about seven stage...

We spoke about Acceptance & Forgiveness in previous 2 articles on relationship fundamentals. Still do we feel that there are times when we fail in relationship building process? If we do then why? What is that is lacking to build that relationship with anyone whom we want to strength it with, be it personal or professional. When we have accepted them and have forgiven them. What we still need to do more? Everything living around us evolve with time and so do relationships. They are best and innocent at nurturing times and with the passing time they either fade in sunlight or mature with investment. Like business every relationship has a bell curve. In professional relationship generally towards the end of curve they end as they are based on materialistic gains, whereas in personal either they start growing up again. But, up and down is part of the life cycle. What is significant here is to keep that life alive in down times too. How we can do it? Most effective way of doing it...

Life is a beautiful journey! If I may, I can tag it to the paradox of train journey. We board the medium from different stations we stand at be the station of age, new beginning, new role or many such times in each ones life. When we are train as the path may be chalked, it takes us from bridges to tunnels. Bridges in our life are the connecting chances we grab to go ahead and tunnels are those dark times we want to overcome of. In life sometimes we deviate from the chalked path like trains halts at red signal, what if train breaks the signal? We all know what blunders it may cause. Similarly few deviation in the chalked path are good sometimes. It is very well said many times when we see it as end, the divine is just trying to bend. I will like to tag our journey of life in 4 phases. In Hindu dharma also it is segregated in 4 stages; Brahmacharya (a student), Grihastha (a homemaker), Vanaprastha (a retired) and Sannyasa (a renunciate), but mine are more to do with our behaviour and...

Often it so happens that our internal critic is so strong that it over powers our thoughts. Sometimes these thoughts have the capacity to overcome and many times we surrender to the internal critic. What one should do to ensure that this internal critic is positive and you achieve what is desired as part of this huff. Your critical side can be a great help as far your personal development is considered, when you take those thoughts in positive light. It at same time takes a mental toll to analyse which side of you is better for yourself. As it is a argument / discuss with you vs you. 1. Focus on the key point of the matter : When there is a internal huff, that is generally for a matter that bothers us be it as tiny as a pin or as big as life itself. But, you need to identify that key to the lock in which you have some dissatisfaction with self. The reason of this dissatisfaction. On identifying the reason of dissatisfaction you will be easily able cure your pain. 2. Not necessary ...